True dat.

I don't entirely agree.

Okay, not bronnyelsp, but I'd pick your first, third, and fourth choices...

more generally I'd say, often your friendship can grow and change, and it may not be the same as it was before, and if it was super intense before, it may be less so, but you can have a sense of comfort and friendliness from years of knowing each other that makes it still a really special relationship even if it's not as intense or all-things-shared as it used to be.

Yeah, entirely too true . . . except when it's not. Maybe I haven't given them a long enough time, but I have some old friendships that are still going very strong, among my most treasured friendships.

And, of course, I have a few disasters.

I think when one is regretting growing apart from an old friend, it's hard to remember the friendships that are still going strong--or if you don't have any you'd characterize as "going strong," then the friendships that still mean a lot to you.

For *any* friendship to remain strong, it takes interaction, and with old friends, if you no longer live in the same area, given life, it's hard to get the time to have the interactions--and we *need* active friendships, so of course we make new ones... and then it can seem that we're losing the old one.

But sometimes if you're put back together with a person, the relationship can perk right up.

Blah blah, I'm talking too much..

That's hitting a bit too close to home these days.

sometimes that's true but sometimes we're just out of practice at being friends.

There's such truth to this, if I'm in a certain frame of mind....

I have two tried and true old friends since high school. I've "outgrown" every friend I've made since then. ( Now in late 30's) I'm not much of a friend collector. I've lowered my expectations moving forward

I haven't found much truth to this.

The only time in my life that happened that I recall besides when I was a kid, was when I got pregnant with my son and it was a little too much reality for some old high school friends, who I haven't talked to since. And they weren't willing to accept and embrace my son, so I'm glad they're not in my life.

I wonder where the line is for considering a friendship 'old'? My best friend moved away two years ago and our friendship is changing, but neither of us is willing to just give up on it. I even realized I needed to come up with an alternative to my cell phone which gets crappy reception at my house (I don't have a home phone) in order to stay in touch with her better. (Getting rid of my home phone was a money-saving endeavor, which has only worked out so-so.)